Your Insta Pics Look Pretty! You Know, For A Black Girl

Your Insta Pics Look Pretty! You Know, For A Black Girl

Guess who’s Back, Back again, Iya’s back, with more hate towards social media and how your online presence can hinder people’s perception of you for better or worse depending on social status and images. And breathe! Don’t you just love that song? But seriously, can you remember my original post You look pretty! You know! For a black girl. If you haven’t read it well now’s the time. Trust me, you need to. We are now on to the social media side of our slightly controversial and highly important campaign. And I get it, everyone is familiar to social media and the negative effects it can have on society. In fact it’s probably something you spoke about in school, the thing that can cause anorexia and bad self-image right? It’s probably a little boring that we’re still being told about it because it’s something nobody is going to stop using nor are you going to stop posting those fire selfies? Right? Do you know what, you are right! In fact if it wasn’t for social media this blog wouldn’t even exist. So why am I hating, and why is this even a part of our campaign?

So last time I mentioned the fact that social media is not showing real races as beautiful, it only takes the “good” parts and that’s it. The same with the ideal face and body. It’s the parts which they deem “good” and those are also the parts we accept and that’s how we decide if something is beautiful or not. If you still aren’t following then again go and read part one because it will make so much more sense about what I am actually talking about. But we don’t need to hate on others who are seen as the ‘ideal beauty’ or those who do not fit the criteria or all of those that are in-between. But what we do need to stop doing is believing the hype and falling for propaganda. So here’s the main point of this post:

Most Social Media Pictures Are F*cking Lies!

Iskra Lawrence

You’ve heard of her right? If not here’s the basics you need to know, Iskra Lawrence is a top model who is widely recognised on the social media platform Instagram! She is a plus size model who was fat shamed despite literally having a banging curvy body with hardly any fat and then she released images and videos of herself eating fatty foods to piss of her haters. And yeah it was pretty bad ass. Google it if you don’t believe me! She’s now all about positive body image and supporting others. But here’s why I want to give her a mention, recently she released something that everyone needs to see. Even when a photo isn’t highly edited it can still be hiding the truth. We all do it to a little extent but I feel like nowadays the fear of being seen one way rather than the other is actually taking over. And that’s modern-day body shaming.

  

 

IG Models

That’s one way that we are feeding into body image but here is another… The ideal life. Everyone has been fed the image of the ideal life and what it looks like and that is also affecting people more and more. And this has a direct reflection on how you see yourself and your body image. The more successful people appear whether it’s in work or every day life e.g. couple goals, the more it affects the self-image of others. And more of us our basing our success on others. When really you need to stop focusing on others around you and what they are doing and more on yourself. I set up a little questionnaire on IG Models and put the link on my personal Facebook here’s what I got back:

First of all a little about the people answering:

  • 70% Were women 
  • 83% Were aged between 18-24
  • 77% Who answered use Instagram every single day, Multiple times
  •  41% Had a following of 100-500 people

What it takes to be an IG model:

  • 65% Said Good Location/Travel Pics
  • 59% Said Money
  • 47% Said Idea of perfection
  • 47% Said Good Body
  • 47% Said Professional Photos
  • 35% Said Sex Appeal
  • 29% Said Famous Friends
  • 20% Said Gym Ready

Their views on IG models:

  • 41% believed you needed over 50K followers to be seen as Insta Famous
  • 35% believed it took a lot of work to become an IG model
  • People follow IG models to see “Perfection“, “Inspiration“, “Attractiveness” and for “A glimpse of a life you wish you could have, e.g. money, fameTheir words not mine.
  • 87% Were currently following an I.G. Model

It is pretty obvious that even if we do it subconsciously we look up to others just from looking through their photos.

Why the f*ck you lying? Why you always lying? Mmmm oh my god…

Guys I am sorry, I lied. Yep that’s right. I’ve been lying! You may have seen in the past few months a lot of “professional” looking photos across my personal and business Instagram accounts. And here’s why; I needed to prove my point. Remember when Lil Bow Wow lied about that private jet for Instagram likes? Well it was my time to do the same thing. After collecting all of the answers in my questionnaire and really deciding what it took to be an IG Model I teamed up with Photographer @graceeperryphotography and new model @Shypinnock (due to me, thank me later guys) to have a little fun and create the perfect Insta Selfies to fool you all! Again sorry, not sorry. And gosh you were all fooled. I reached 200 likes in less than an hour on one picture which was a big difference to my 30 I normally receive, comments came flooding in and wow you really dived into the DM’s. Identities are all blurred out!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So here’s a couple of examples! I’ve chosen these because these are the main 3 types of messages I received, 1. The totally fooled, 2. the complimentor, and 3. the doubter/negative viber. Now the first guy literally thought I was fit based off of one photo and at this point I had literally not been to the gym in months, the last time I had ran was probably year 9 PE and I had to search for my Gym leggings. But it was in a picture so despite the fact that I had actually told him I was out of shape was irrelevant. A big thank you for everyone’s comments and support though! Because I did find it very challenging to post such ‘out there’ pictures of myself and I was extremely nervous! So thank you for the positivity and love.

You Can’t Handle The Truth!

So here’s the truth and real stories behind my insta pics… Over 300 photos were taken, we got it down to 63 and I chose my faves/ones I thought would do well for instagram, it wasn’t a quick lets take a picture kind of thing. All of the photos were taken over the space of two days. So I don’t have a crazy exciting overly busy life, I actually have a quick rush, change outfit, change makeup, whats the time Grace can we fit in another shot? Kind of life. As the model I am not edited however back grounds and “props” have been to really sell the illusion. Shy is all edit free! That’s right her abs are real.

So this was the first photo I uploaded, Showing off my car right? Not exactly.. I haven’t even passed my test yet.. The car belongs to my friends and the photos taken by the bins on my Nan’s drive! Thanks for lending me your car guys!

Again the car… I couldn’t even open the window and had to ask Was to open it for me, in the end we just opened the car door…

Ok this waterfall was stunning, a horrible trek to get to with all of our equipment and makeup but totally worth it. These aren’t even swimming costumes, just body suits… we had to change under towels and you can’t even swim here… But it deffo gave us the travel vibe we wanted… even if it only was in Wales, a couple of hours away from my house. Oh and as for best friend… I had never met Shy until that day. She is lovely though… friendship goals however? Maybe not.

So now we needed the basic b*tch photo that all IG lovers have, A Starbucks picture. And it wasn’t as glamorous as you may think… People walking by giving uh, helpful selfie tips? pigeons and this was just outside Starbucks in Cheltenham town, Primark and Boots have just been edited out along with all of the fag butts on the floor!

This one is true however, we’re not wet from a nice swim in a hot country we’re wet from standing very close to the waterfall and being behind the waterfall so Grace could get a good shot…  Also to the American guy who thought we were actual models and took photos with us and all of his family.. sorry!!

We didn’t work out.. at all.. Shy is super fit and is actually training to be a PT so “dat ass” is real! (Again you can thank me later for this photo guys) But the only work out we did was walking from different locations with a lot of stuff! I guess you could say Shy worked out because she did hold that squat for like 15 minutes… me on the other hand? I just sat on the mat.

Again maybe you’ll get me in the gym one day Shy… At least I am fitter than grace 😉 (Inside joke!) The laugh is genuine though!

Both of us are not Yoga or balance friendly people… we are so bad.. this was probably the hardest shot we took! awk.

I am a feminist however this top was bought purely for this shoot… all IG models are jumping on the girl power band wagon now… It is a positive thing but that’s why this picture has been taken… in my Nan’s back garden… My feminism story is true though! Not that anyone really reads it.

This was a just because I needed a photo of myself as well as with Shy to really sell the IG model feel. So I added the old “say a negative thing about yourself so you get more likes and compliments”.

Again I had never really spoken to Shy before, she was literally a random girl on Insta I thought had a nice ass, she was a year or so below me at school and I had dropped her a Facebook message asking if she would take some photos for me. I am glad that she’s doing well at Uni but as for being best friends? We had to really sell the friendship goals. Also I hate this picture of myself sooo much.

Lastly our campaign photo was also one of these photos! And wasn’t suppose to be used in the way it was it just fit so perfectly!

So there you guys have it! All of those photos weren’t exactly what they seemed! So next time you feel envious from a photo on social media, remember to take it with a pinch of salt because anyone can look like they are living the dream…

Join our movement, recognise real beauty and help promote real healthy self-confidence!

 #YouArePrettyForaBlackgirl

A big thank you to @LunaLotusUk, @Tokyotattoo, @ShyPinnock and of course the amazing @graceeperryphotography. Keep a look out for all of these in future posts!

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22 Comments

  1. 30th January 2018 / 7:13 pm

    I think it takes a lot of courage to openly admit that all the shots are not completely true but I also think that people expect them to be some constructed bits of reality. You usually show the best parts of your life and you might take extra efforts for one picture but I don’t think it is bad at all. every picture has a story more complex than the shot itself. xx corinne

    • iyalouisa
      Author
      30th January 2018 / 7:18 pm

      Of course every body only wants to show the best of themselves, especially for photos. But it’s important to remember that not everything is what it seems when you’re striving to look like IG models etc and beauty is a lot more than a picture, it’s what’s behind the picture 😊 xx

  2. 30th January 2018 / 8:01 pm

    This is a great post – it’s so good how you show how easily a “look” can be achieved with just pulling a pose or using a certain background/clothing! It is a shame how much we are influenced by the models and this image that is put on us with how we should look and how our life should be. I love what you’ve said with saying beauty is more than a picture – it’s what’s behind the picture!

    Amy,
    https://creativenails.uk

    • iyalouisa
      Author
      30th January 2018 / 8:03 pm

      ❤️❤️

    • iyalouisa
      Author
      30th January 2018 / 10:57 pm

      ❤️❤️❤️

  3. 3rd April 2018 / 12:07 pm

    Yeah I totally agree that even when a photo isn’t highly edited it can still be hiding the truth!

  4. Felicia
    3rd April 2018 / 9:06 pm

    All of those statistics are so interesting! And you’re so right that so many pictures are not reality. I LOVE your photos though. Stunning!

    • iyalouisa
      Author
      3rd April 2018 / 9:07 pm

      Thank you!!

  5. 3rd April 2018 / 10:06 pm

    I don’t appear on social media as I know what people can be like and I don’t like negativity. It’s a shame that so many photos are edited and people are brainwashed to think that what they see is normal and something to become like even though it’s not real.

  6. 4th April 2018 / 12:27 am

    I totally agree that not everything is as perfect as instagram makes it seems. Well done for being honest and talking about it.

    • 12th April 2018 / 8:59 am

      I agree. And 300 photos! Waaaaa I stop at 5 myself. I am not much into modelling, I would rather be behind the camera. That’s why my kids are my models 😀

  7. 4th April 2018 / 2:09 am

    Love this kind of honesty. We don’t post the bad parts in social media but that doesn’t mean we also have to be unreal. I think it’s better to be authentic and I salute you for being as real as you can get about this.

  8. Joline
    4th April 2018 / 4:23 am

    That’s the thing with social media – you only see the good parts, the parts people want you to see. I think though that more and more people are seeing through this though and realizing everything needs to be taken with a grain of salt.

  9. 4th April 2018 / 11:23 am

    This post is GOLD!
    It’s crazy how much social media is influencing our lives.We always tend to compare ourselves to some pictures that don’t actually reflect the reality.

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  10. 4th April 2018 / 1:46 pm

    Thanks for being so honest about your photos, it’s crazy how much we see on social media isn’t real x

  11. 4th April 2018 / 3:00 pm

    You go girl!

    Honestly, I am not so much into IG. I have some sort of influencer status but I never really felt like I had to pad something about my life to make it blog worthy. I just be myself with my family and I blog whatever we do and like. Takes a whole lot of pressure from blogging.

  12. 4th April 2018 / 8:00 pm

    I have to say that social media, especially Instagram, puts most of society in a whole different bubble. I see more and more people not living life in any real way just so they can take pretentious pictures. I love this post and how much you’ve highlighted and have done to prove to the world that not everything you see is real on social media. Sadly, popularity has become not just an addiction for people but a way to view themselves as worthy of life in general. Very very sad. You’ve done so much work and I really hope you are able to reach out to a lot of people, especially those who need the understanding. Great job here!

  13. 5th April 2018 / 12:07 am

    Wow, first of all it is so rude that people will tell you that ‘you are pretty for a black girl’ what awful people. At the end of the day you are beautiful no matter what skin colour and that is a fact. But in terms of the social media reality vs expectations dichotomy, I completely agree. What we see on social media is not always indicative of the reality. But some people don’t seem to understand that!

  14. Jennifer Prince
    7th April 2018 / 3:13 am

    Ug! That is so hard that people say things like that. Why can’t you just be beautiful? Why does there have to be a qualifier? I always hear that I’m beautiful “for my age” – why can’t I just have a compliment without a qualifier!! 🙁

  15. 7th April 2018 / 6:52 pm

    What an honest and refreshing post. I do sit and look at Instagram sometimes and assume it is all real life – which it totally isn’t! I love the quote: The reason why we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel – it is so true!

  16. 9th April 2018 / 3:42 am

    I appreciate your sincerity in revealing the truth. The statistics you shared are really informative. Well done and all the best.

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