You Are Pretty! You Know, For A Sporty Girl.

Can you remember my first post “You Are Pretty! You Know, For A Black Girl.” Turns out sooo many people were affected by this. Not just black women but everyone seems to be struggling with fitting into society for one reason or another… So it’s time to stand up and talk about our judgemental ways.

I am judgemental. Yep I will admit it, I am! I am so judgemental! A girl could walk past with “bad eyebrows” and there I am judging away. It’s something that everyone does if they care to admit it or not. But now is the time we could all start to think about how we judge people. Like wow was that bitchy comment or thought needed? And should I be saying that?

At the start of the year I gathered some people who were happy to share their experiences or insecurities. Some insecurities you could look at them and think… really? Why are you worried? But it turns out that everyone has something. Something that you see as insignificant can be a big deal to someone else and that is something I think we tend to forget.

To kick it off we’re going to start with Shy. You may remember her from the second part of this campaign “Your Insta Pics Are Pretty! You Know, For A Black Girl.” And you’re probably thinking really what has she got to be worried about!

So Shy is super into fitness and sport, in fact she is rather good at rugby and isn’t ashamed to let people know. However that doesn’t stop girls like Shy for being judged. For some unknown reason girls who play sports (especially contact sports), girls who are competitive, and girls who aren’t afraid to train and get a little dirty are seen as intimidating and unattractive by society.

Why? because women should be clean, pretty, proper and scared to break a nail. Women have been seen as fragile for so long the idea that they play contact sports and in fact play it to a high standard is mind-blowing. On average a female professional rugby player will get paid around 5x less than a male professional rugby player. That is because females playing the exact same sport at the same skill level aren’t seen as equal. It wasn’t that long ago that girls weren’t allowed to play rugby or football.. when my Mum was younger it wasn’t even considered an option for PE (And although I’m not putting her age it wasn’t that long ago!).

So many girls don’t stick to playing sports when leaving school and this is mainly because society tells us to stop. Its manly and unattractive and nows the time to just go to the gym and yoga classes. Which is fine if you enjoy it. I hated contact sports when I was at school; I was to be frank, shit at them. But love the gym. However I know girls who were great at rugby, football, hockey etc… at school and when you talk to them now they’re like “Oh I loved it I just don’t do it anymore”. Why stop something you love because you feel like society has said its worthless you doing?

Which photo is more attractive? Which photo should Shy be on a daily basis?

I’m sure everyone has an opinion on these 3 very different photos. And I am sure everyone has different opinions on which photo is more attractive  But Shy is more than just a sporty girl. Shy is sporty, Shy is comfortable and causal and Shy can also be very girly and can dress up. Instead of defining people by single characteristics we should just embrace them all because that’s what makes Shy Shy. And that can go for all people.

This is Shy; and this is who she should be;

Funny, Talented, Supportive, Strong, Independent, Crazy, Fashionable, competitive, fearless, Intelligent, and most importantly; Pretty! You know, for any kind of girl.

You can hit shy up on insta; @shypinnock.

And for photography our photographer as always is @graceeperryphotography or you can find her on her new site here.

25 Comments

  1. Denise summers
    8th April 2018 / 5:58 pm

    I have known shy since she was 7/8 she is an inspiration to all young girls out I have alot of live for this girl keep doing want Ur doing beautiful xxx

  2. 9th April 2018 / 2:45 am

    Its really amazing what you have written. Dreams of many people are shattered just because they think what will society think about them.

  3. Komal
    9th April 2018 / 12:50 pm

    Girl! Don’t let the haters get you down. I say those people are ignorant. You are beautiful as a human and that’s it!

  4. 9th April 2018 / 1:36 pm

    Inspiring post! And continue to inspire everyone who will get to know you. Everyone is unique, everyone is created beautifully.

  5. 10th April 2018 / 1:06 am

    I love how much women can relate to your post so much, it just goes to show what kind of views our society has for women and it’s too much sometimes that it’s definitely going to affect our self esteem. Shy is beautiful, like every single woman on Earth. Thank you so much for this post, I hope it empowers many women.

  6. 10th April 2018 / 3:21 am

    There is a lot of truth to what you wrote and it’s real, we all experienced this! We are also all unique and should each inspire to be beautifully different! Thanks for sharing!

  7. 10th April 2018 / 8:14 am

    Wow, I just loved the way you’ve described these 3 photos which are so real in our lives. We judge so many people with their looks without knowing the other facets of life . Indeed each one on this earth is so unique and has a different persona.

  8. Patrice
    10th April 2018 / 11:10 am

    I love this I can really relate and get what you mean. My mum growing up was told she wasn’t allowed to ride a bike because she is a girl and until this day she has not ridden a bike. I hate how society puts females down for the simple fact that they are a female.

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    • iyalouisa
      Author
      10th April 2018 / 12:12 pm

      That’s so crazy! But when I was at school a remember a guy tweeting that girls who ride bikes are unattractive!

  9. Geraline Batarra
    10th April 2018 / 1:29 pm

    I love all the photos and I love the way she is. She can be a girly and manly too depends on the situations, that is why I like it.

  10. 10th April 2018 / 2:20 pm

    Nice piece of writing. Seriously, we keep on thinking what society thinks about us and we never try to attempt what we love. I simply hate such thoughts. Truly, an inspiring post!!

  11. 10th April 2018 / 2:37 pm

    It’s so disappointing what society has continuously been doing to women and how they keep forcing a certain stereotype that all women must be the feminine, graceful, and all that. It’s as if we’re not allowed to have our own personalities. I think a woman is more beautiful when she’s her true self, no matter what that is. This post gives such a beautiful message to women.

  12. 10th April 2018 / 8:51 pm

    I love this and find it so sad that others try to make women feel less beautiful because they don’t conform to our expectations amongst society. I think all of these photos are beautiful!

  13. 10th April 2018 / 10:29 pm

    These days there is too much emphasis given to looks, how we dress , what we eat , how thin we are. We are all different and each person has a choice to be how they want to be and people should not judge but respect individual taste.

  14. 11th April 2018 / 2:01 am

    I love all 3 photos. They show a different side everything. There should be no labels.

  15. Blair villanueva
    11th April 2018 / 2:43 am

    Everyone is beautiful and unique. The one who doesn’t agree either are jealous or just want to be more superiour to the rest. What you can do, they might can’t. 🙂

  16. 11th April 2018 / 3:38 am

    Beautiful post! You’re so right that we’re not just one thing. In my case I’m a wife, kickboxing instructor, friend, holistic nutrition student, grandma, bike-rider .. the list goes on. How sad if we spent our entire lives being defined by just one thing.

  17. 11th April 2018 / 5:47 am

    Being sporty is not a manly thing any more and that doesn’t make you less of a girl . You look gorgeous either way .

  18. 11th April 2018 / 11:26 am

    I have the impression that the American society is still clinging to old cliches about looks and appearances. Probably Barbie has too much influence in children’s rooms. Anyway, it’s good that you are dealing with this topic in such a straight forward way.

    • iyalouisa
      Author
      11th April 2018 / 11:32 am

      We’re English and feeling it here so I think everyone needs to start making changes

  19. 11th April 2018 / 12:10 pm

    Screw the haters, you look totally amazing. Sod them if they are not in the best shape.

  20. 11th April 2018 / 6:56 pm

    I love this post. You always find a way to inspire and bring out my exact feelings and help me say, “yes!” You know who you are and I’m glad you’re sharing it with us!

  21. 11th April 2018 / 9:32 pm

    I know we say so many insensitive things in our lives. We don’t always think what we are saying and just say some dumb stuff. But really this bothers me that somehow someone just doesn’t see how amazingly beautiful this woman is, irrespective of what she likes to do. It’s sad we put a caveat like that.

  22. 12th April 2018 / 10:15 am

    That’s crazy that they get paid 5x less! It shouldn’t be like that. I think girls should be encouraged to do whatever makes them happy.

  23. 13th April 2018 / 7:23 am

    I love the fact you can make the switch from one to the other. Really the girly post one will desire all day anytime.

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