Can you remember my first post “You Are Pretty! You Know, For A Black Girl.” Turns out sooo many people were affected by this. Not just black women but everyone seems to be struggling with fitting into society for one reason or another… So it’s time to stand up and talk about our judgemental ways.
I am judgemental. Yep I will admit it, I am! I am so judgemental! A girl could walk past with “bad eyebrows” and there I am judging away. It’s something that everyone does if they care to admit it or not. But now is the time we could all start to think about how we judge people. Like wow was that bitchy comment or thought needed? And should I be saying that?
At the start of the year I gathered some people who were happy to share their experiences or insecurities. Some insecurities you could look at them and think… really? Why are you worried? But it turns out that everyone has something. Something that you see as insignificant can be a big deal to someone else and that is something I think we tend to forget.
To kick it off we’re going to start with Shy. You may remember her from the second part of this campaign “Your Insta Pics Are Pretty! You Know, For A Black Girl.” And you’re probably thinking really what has she got to be worried about!
So Shy is super into fitness and sport, in fact she is rather good at rugby and isn’t ashamed to let people know. However that doesn’t stop girls like Shy for being judged. For some unknown reason girls who play sports (especially contact sports), girls who are competitive, and girls who aren’t afraid to train and get a little dirty are seen as intimidating and unattractive by society.
Why? because women should be clean, pretty, proper and scared to break a nail. Women have been seen as fragile for so long the idea that they play contact sports and in fact play it to a high standard is mind-blowing. On average a female professional rugby player will get paid around 5x less than a male professional rugby player. That is because females playing the exact same sport at the same skill level aren’t seen as equal. It wasn’t that long ago that girls weren’t allowed to play rugby or football.. when my Mum was younger it wasn’t even considered an option for PE (And although I’m not putting her age it wasn’t that long ago!).
So many girls don’t stick to playing sports when leaving school and this is mainly because society tells us to stop. Its manly and unattractive and nows the time to just go to the gym and yoga classes. Which is fine if you enjoy it. I hated contact sports when I was at school; I was to be frank, shit at them. But love the gym. However I know girls who were great at rugby, football, hockey etc… at school and when you talk to them now they’re like “Oh I loved it I just don’t do it anymore”. Why stop something you love because you feel like society has said its worthless you doing?
Which photo is more attractive? Which photo should Shy be on a daily basis?
I’m sure everyone has an opinion on these 3 very different photos. And I am sure everyone has different opinions on which photo is more attractive But Shy is more than just a sporty girl. Shy is sporty, Shy is comfortable and causal and Shy can also be very girly and can dress up. Instead of defining people by single characteristics we should just embrace them all because that’s what makes Shy Shy. And that can go for all people.
This is Shy; and this is who she should be;
Funny, Talented, Supportive, Strong, Independent, Crazy, Fashionable, competitive, fearless, Intelligent, and most importantly; Pretty! You know, for any kind of girl.
You can hit shy up on insta; @shypinnock.