We are back again with the campaigning and it is my turn so we are going to get a little personal! Woo… emosh times. This is a thing I have struggled with through out my whole life. Today we are here to talk about being called “fat”. Yep that one. I bet you wondered when this was going to come up!
My body weight has been an issue my whole life, I have tried fad diets, not eating etc.. and it has really became a dark issue surrounding my life that has followed me everywhere. And I would say 98% of the time I have been called fat by girls. “Fat” is a word that every girl hates. So sometimes when it is used it’s literally just used as a weapon to hurt you regardless of your size. Whether you are a size 8 or a size 22 you have once in your life been called fat by some bitch.
But first I want to quickly talk about the other side… The bad versions of “skinny”. So I have friends who have been desperate to put weight on and have struggled due to high metabolisms and other health altercations. It is also not, I repeat not, okay to be horrible to people who are “too skinny”. “You need a cheeseburger” is something I have heard frequently said to my friends and it is not ok. They are trying. The same goes for men. Being called skinny is not ok.
As I have never dealt with those comments it’s not something I can talk too much about! So here is the fat side of things. I am currently a size 12/14 and my weight is constantly going between size 10-14. At one stage I was an 18 but I felt deeply unhappy within myself so I lost a lot of weight. I have spent nights crying over my body and my weight. I have spent nights crying over what people thought of me or comments they have made. I am a comfort eater and I also eat to punish myself to make my self feel shitter as part of my mental health. So my relationship with food is really love hate.
When is it okay to comment on someones weight?
Unless you are a medical professional and they have come to see you or You are a really close family member or a friend who has a genuine concern about unhealthy habits then you need to keep your lips sealed. Do not add to people’s bad emotional states. Do not judge people. You have no clue what is going on in their life. You do not know if that person is going through treatment so they have put weight on as a side effect, if they are going through any mental health concerns or what. Keep your negativity to yourself. Same goes for the skinny side. This is the same for both men and women. And that’s that.
I laugh now looking back at some of the comments when I was back at school of being called fat and me crying because do you know what, I was a size 10! That was the slimmest I have ever been in my life. What a joke! I wish I could be like “Girl stop crying, don’t turn to comfort eating, do you know how hard it’s going to be to maintain that soon!”.
I hate when people say bigger girls are unattractive or when people claim to love “curves” but what they mean by curves is a tiny waist and with big boobs and big thighs and bum. Girls have belly’s and that’s that. They actually serve a lot or purpose believe it or not… not everyone is going to have a flat stomach and that does not make them unattractive.
How People See Themselves.
People can see themselves in different ways. Completely different to how we see them depending on confidence. Here’s a little visual representation of that.
Now here’s the big thing. Unless someone is unhealthy with their weight or habits and that goes for either side of the scale. Then I am all for diversity and different shapes. We need to all stop being so concerned about people’s appearances and start to comment on things that actually matter.
I am Pretty! You Know, for any type of girl.
Don’t forget to check out our last campaign post; You Are Pretty! You Know, For a Tattooed Girl.
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