You are Pretty! You Know, For a Black Girl. – The Final Edition

You are Pretty! You Know, For a Black Girl. – The Final Edition

That’s it people the campaign has come to an end! It all started with “You are Pretty! You Know, For a Black Girl” and “You Insta Pics Look Pretty! You Know, For a Black Girl.” And here we are another 9 campaign posts later! I never thought so many people would be so affected by this and how many messages and comments I would get! So to round things up we are ending with how we started and talking about black skin and beauty.

Meet Essian Thomas. Our campaign face if you will.

Essian for me embodies everything that my original post was about. And damn girl. She is beautiful. So instead of the usual lay out, as we have already spoken about race and beauty previously, we are going to share something a little different with you. This is Essian’s spoken word which she performed at UCL for a BME event. And I think it just says it all.

Black Beauty.

She looks in the mirror and starts to cry,
Why was I born with such big thighs?
Why is my nose to wide?
My lips so full,
My hair so wild?

Couldn’t I have had lighter skin,
Loser curls, thinner thighs,
Hair he could ‘run his hands through’,
But no.

She sits down on the side of her bed,
Staring into space 10, 20, 30….. 60 minutes go by.

She gets up and looks in the mirror again and starts to cry.
This time what she sees, does not cause her pain but gives her pride,
She sees pure beauty.

She accepts that she was born with beautiful features,
Her thighs that give her extra curve ,
Her plump natural lips that many desire,
And pay to get,
Never quite reacting the natural beauty of hers,
Her hair that defies gravity,
that takes any style God’s gift to her.
But most of all she cries with joy,
When she looks in her eyes and sees all those beautiful women before her,
Holding her high,
Giving her the strength to face another day,
She cries harder when she truly takes the time to see what all those beautiful women had passed on to her.

And determination to make it through.

She stands up straight,
Picks up her bag,
And opens the door,
Ready to face the world.

Ready to face the constant criticism,
Of her hair, her body and question of her wisdom,
She knows the truth.
Her beauty is envied and desired.

he walks tall knowing that she represents true beauty,
Black beauty.

Own what you’ve got. 

Essian Thomas is funny, intelligent, beautiful, kind, independent, strong, loving. Essian Thomas is Pretty! You Know, For Any Kind Of Girl.

Don’t forget to check out our last campaign post; You are Pretty! You Know, For a Slut.

You can hit Essian up on insta; @essialian

And for photography our photographer as always is @graceeperryphotography or you can find her on her new site here.



  1. 9th July 2018 / 7:59 am

    This poem is beautiful in so many ways. There are so many black women who feel less than in this world because of the stigma placed on us by society. There is so much magic in melanin. We always have to remind ourselves that, even if others don’t acknowledge the beauty in us.

    • iyalouisa
      9th July 2018 / 9:35 am


  2. 9th July 2018 / 12:21 pm

    Oh wow her spoken word is moving. So powerful. I could just keep reading and re-reading. More people need to read this, to learn from this.

    • iyalouisa
      9th July 2018 / 4:55 pm

      She is amazing ❤️

  3. 9th July 2018 / 1:38 pm

    The poem is incredible. There is so much obsession for white skin that a every black girl takes it as some disorder. A beautiful smile and confidence makes your identity as a wonderful person. Happy that people are spreading much love and support.

    • iyalouisa
      9th July 2018 / 4:55 pm


  4. Kate
    9th July 2018 / 6:07 pm

    beautiful and powerful poem, you can feel how this person is speaking out of her soul. What a shame that we are living in the 21st century and still so many of us can’t except ourselves the way we are. Marvelous campaign!

  5. Razena
    9th July 2018 / 6:29 pm

    Beautiful! Reading her words made me smile and made me feel proud of my dark skin and thick thighs.

    • iyalouisa
      9th July 2018 / 7:04 pm


  6. Heather
    9th July 2018 / 6:45 pm

    I went to school with her. Proud to see her as she’s very a beautiful girl and showing off talent. The poem was beautiful x

    • iyalouisa
      9th July 2018 / 7:05 pm


  7. Tawnya
    9th July 2018 / 7:17 pm

    Very nice poem. All women should take pride in their beauty, no matter who they are. What we see in media isn’t real life.

  8. 10th July 2018 / 12:25 pm

    It’s such an inspiring poem. Skin colour is just a gift of God, inside body composition of every creature is almost same. Black is beautiful 🙂

  9. Renata
    10th July 2018 / 1:12 pm

    The poem is really nice. That your series has been such a success proves mainly one thing: There are very few people that qualify as ‘perfect’ – and what should ‘perfect’ be, anyway? And to whom? In this flood of superficial, advertisement-loaden influencer and blogger posts, your articles show a refreshing and inspiring depth.

    • iyalouisa
      10th July 2018 / 1:45 pm


  10. Jennifer Prince
    10th July 2018 / 2:43 pm

    She is beautiful and what a great campaign. I’m glad she was able to inspire you to help and inspire others.

  11. 10th July 2018 / 5:55 pm

    The poem was incredible! It is true that we should own what we have and understand that our unique qualities and features! The beauty in being is that there isn’t anyone quite like you!

    • iyalouisa
      10th July 2018 / 6:23 pm


  12. 10th July 2018 / 6:39 pm

    I love this and can relate completely. I have fallen in love with my blackness and it’s features.

    • iyalouisa
      10th July 2018 / 7:40 pm


  13. Elizabeth O
    10th July 2018 / 8:48 pm

    This is a powerful article indeed! The poem was just amazing and inspiring! I think that every one is beautiful no matter the colour of their skin or how they look.

  14. Annemarie LeBlanc
    11th July 2018 / 1:20 am

    I love the poem! It is very empowering. Beauty is not to be measured by the way you look. It is your heart that gives you that loving, beautiful personality. We are all God’s creation. Not a single person that has ever lived, or alive today, or in the future is ever ugly. Thank you for this inspiring post.

  15. 11th July 2018 / 11:55 am

    Such a beautiful poem this is. It’s not the colour, but the personality , the confidence which makes you pretty inside out. Loved this post

  16. Anaj
    11th July 2018 / 12:17 pm

    For me black doesn’t mean less. The color doesn’t mean anything. Great poem.

  17. Dogvills
    11th July 2018 / 1:16 pm

    This poem has so much relevance, especially with today’s youth. The younger generation nowadays crave for acceptance and they have a distorted view of what beauty actually is. Parents must encourage their kids to avoid comparing themselves with others and embrace their own uniqueness! Tell them to image a world where everybody looks the same. How boring that would be!

  18. 11th July 2018 / 1:44 pm

    Pretty poem and beautiful lady as the face of the campaign. Well, I agree how people tend to judge black beauties more than they will to lighter ones. Some even consider light-skinned ladies as the pretty ones while black beauties have a lot more to do! But even so, we are proud lol! It all boils down to self-esteem.

  19. 11th July 2018 / 3:02 pm

    Such a wonderful post! We followed your last campaign too. Yes and we are definitely checking out the photographers link

  20. 11th July 2018 / 8:58 pm

    I think “own what’s you got” is the way to go. Close your ears to the bullies and live a free life!

  21. 12th July 2018 / 7:08 pm

    This is just sad that people think that, or could even say that about someone else. She expresses herself so beautiful through poetry. It’s amazing.

    • iyalouisa
      12th July 2018 / 10:29 pm


  22. 12th July 2018 / 10:27 pm

    What a powerful and beautifully touching poem. It’s wonderful to see these stories, thanks so much for sharing them xx

    • iyalouisa
      12th July 2018 / 10:28 pm


  23. 14th July 2018 / 9:30 pm

    She is gorgeous! As someone who had bdy image issues, it can be hard to accept ourselves, but we need to realize that we are perfect just the way we are!

    • iyalouisa
      15th July 2018 / 7:40 am

      Preach it! ❤️

      • Pol Keeley
        14th April 2019 / 2:24 pm

        Dear Iya-Louisa, Essian, Commenters,

        Greetings from a Dubliner in New Jersey, US.
        Yes, a really lovely poem indeed. Thank you. And I love that the commenters here draw strength and inspiration from that.

        There’s an expression I live by, which has been the steadfast mantra for the success in my life, despite the pain and trials I (like all of us I’m sure) have experienced.

        So will. Some won’t. So what.

        We are going to encounter derision an/or prejudice in some form or another. It’s just the numbers game of life. How we react to it is what matters. Hence this forum and campaign from the nice people here.

        As one person commented above(below), it boils down to self esteem, as well as what I see as the cultural and emotional transmission from the surroundings in which we live, frequent, find ourselves. And we can never forget the importance of great parenting and friends; instilling love, pride, responsibility, and self esteem. The rest is on us to absorb and filter. Life is going to be hard, no matter what we do, or where we go, especially in this ever-increasing goldfish bowl of connectivity and ultra-fast emissions of viewpoints and opinions on just about everything, it seems (smh).

        I constantly hear this ‘black is beautiful’ thing across its many banners, messages, platforms… whch it is!! Yes, I get it. The naturally stunning black women I have encountered are beyond words. Okay, EssIan is a stunning-looking lady, a poet, a face for this campaign, and so on. Wonderful. Yes, I get it too.

        Out there, many are. Many are not. We will often find beauty and ugliness in every stratification of society, from the hoods to middle class to the millionaire listings.

        Personally, I tend to look at the colour of a woman’s character, not her ethnicity or skin tone, when summing up the worth of our interaction. Many beautiful women (and men) can be vile, full-of-themselves creatures in our selfie-infested, media ‘for the sake of the agenda and money’ noise. It’s just mediocrity, or crack for the current generations. (Look what smartphones have done, good and bad, for the way looks and colour etc etc etc are viewed, portrayed, morphed…) (another smh.)

        But self esteem isn’t mediocrity. It means everything to so many. To protect this, we simply have to gravitate towards people who understand and embody the meaning of that.

        Black beauty? Yes. Of course. A beautiful, unique colour. (Thank you universe.)
        Rather, for me: human beauty. A far deeper, brighter colour.

  24. kim
    15th July 2018 / 2:52 am

    Such a great and powerful poem. I know from first hand experience that body issues can be so difficult to overcome.

  25. 17th July 2018 / 4:52 pm

    Essian’s spoken word was moving, I really love what she wrote and how so many of us have stared into the mirror with similar thoughts. Yet, there comes a moment in time where you come to appreciate the differences and that was reflected in her poem. Loved it.

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